When a significant person in your life dies, it can feel as if you have lost a part of yourself and accepting that they are no longer here can be difficult.
Death ends a life, not a relationship.
Slowly, over time, the relationship will adjust and ways can eventually be found to re-define how this will be. When someone dies, there are lots of ways to continue to have a bond with them which can be helpful. Here are some activities that you could try:
- Talk about the person with others, especially friends and relatives.
- Visit somewhere special that had meaning for both of you.
- Don’t be afraid to talk aloud to the person.
- Write to the person who died, expressing your thoughts, feelings and memories.
- Take some time to put all those photographs together.
- Memory boxes can be very useful for children but work just as well for adults.
- Be kind to yourself and don’t feel you need to rush your grief.
- Some memories might trigger different emotions; distress, sadness, regret, but also sometimes a smile – all of these are ok.
Please find below some recommended websites:
CRUSE Bereavement Care - www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk
Helpline: 0870 167 1677
Coping with a terminal illness - www.terminalillness.co.uk
The Bereavement Counselling Charity - www.bereavementcharity.org.uk/
Helplines: Adults - 07827 491902 Children - 07827 492158
The Bereavement Centre - www.bereavementsupportgroups.co.uk
Call 07885 843863
Useful websites for children and young people
Winston’s wish - www.winstonswish.org.uk
Helpline 0845 20 30 40 5
Riprap - For children who have a parent with cancer. www.riprap.org.uk
Hope Again - Support for bereaved young people. www.hopeagain.org.uk
Helpline 0808 808 1677
Child Death Helpline - For those affected by the death of a child. www.childdeathhelpline.org.uk
Helpline 0800 282 986
The Bereavement Register - Stop unwanted direct mail to the deceased. www.thebereavementregister.org.uk
Bereavement Advice Centre - For anyone facing loss. www.bereavementadvice.org
Counselling Directory - A place to find professional counselling support in your area and information on bereavement and loss. www.counselling-directory.org.uk/bereavement.html