Death ends a life, not a relationship.
Slowly, over time, the relationship will adjust and ways can eventually be found to re-define how this will be. When someone dies, there are lots of ways to continue to have a bond with them which can be helpful. Here are some activities that you could try:
- Talk about the person with others, especially friends and relatives.
- Visit somewhere special that had meaning for both of you.
- Don’t be afraid to talk aloud to the person.
- Write a poem or letter to the person who died, expressing your thoughts, feelings and memories.
- Take some time to put all those photographs together.
- Memory boxes can be a good way to stay connected. They are particularly useful for children but work just as well for adults.
- Be kind to yourself and don’t feel you need to rush your grief.
- Some memories might trigger different emotions; distress, sadness, regret, but also sometimes a smile – all of these are ok.