Remembering Someone

When a significant person in your life dies, it can feel as if you have lost a part of yourself and accepting that they are no longer here can be difficult. Part of managing loss is being able to continue the bond you had with that person, especially if they were really close to you.

This section has been designed to provide you with ideas and activities for remembering someone.

Death ends a life, not a relationship.

Slowly, over time, the relationship will adjust and ways can eventually be found to re-define how this will be. When someone dies, there are lots of ways to continue to have a bond with them which can be helpful. Here are some activities that you could try:

  • Talk about the person with others, especially friends and relatives.
  • Visit somewhere special that had meaning for both of you.
  • Don’t be afraid to talk aloud to the person.
  • Write a poem or letter to the person who died, expressing your thoughts, feelings and memories.
  • Take some time to put all those photographs together.
  • Memory boxes can be a good way to stay connected. They are particularly useful for children but work just as well for adults.
  • Be kind to yourself and don’t feel you need to rush your grief.
  • Some memories might trigger different emotions; distress, sadness, regret, but also sometimes a smile – all of these are ok.